We may not start something because we doubt ourselves or think we can’t. Sometimes we don’t start something for the simple fact that we think we need someone there to help us start, or to get us through. We don’t trust our own abilities as an individual. That was one of the biggest lies I ever told myself (at a certain period of my life). That I needed someone to help me (start). The thing is, you are more than capable of doing anything and starting anything yourself.
I recall one day sitting at an old friends house. I was on my cell phone and she was tending to her baby. She said, “Karen, feel free to get something to drink or a snack from the kitchen.” I smiled and asked her what she had to offer. She told me and I decided what I wanted. I saw that she was closest to the kitchen, so I told her what I wanted. She didn’t flinch, she continued feeding her baby. She asked me, “Karen, do you have two hands?” I replied, Yes. She asked me, “Do you have two feet?” I replied, Yeah!?… Then she said, “I think you are more than capable of doing it yourself.”
Okay, at that time I was really young, ignorant and lazy, but there are lessons here!
- Everyone is busy with their own lives.
- Yes, they can be there for you but it won’t be 100%. Eventually, you will have to figure it out yourself.
She told me the truth. I had two hands, two feet, and I was more than capable of doing it for myself. I can get up, and search her cabinets and fridge for what I wanted and needed.
- I didn’t have to wait for her to do it.
- I didn’t have to wait for her to do it together.
- I didn’t have to wait for her to decide for myself what I wanted.
Now, I understand that is a simple situation.
What about a new job? Let’s take a look at a cashier.
A trainer will go over the cash register with you. Tell you where everything is at and how it works, and then you’re off on your own. They may supervise for like 5 minutes and then walk off.
- You don’t have to wait for the trainer to cash people out.
- You don’t have to wait for the trainer to do anything together.
- You don’t have to wait on the trainer to decide what you need to do on the register to do what you need to do.
- You don’t have to wait for someone or a mentor to start.
- You don’t have to wait for someone or a mentor to do it together.
- You don’t have to wait for someone to decide what you need to do.
I know I repeated the same three points. I wanted to show that no matter the situation, everything has a process. In everything there is a process, when you decide to do something. The only difference is the situation.
So don’t wait for anyone. Go out there and trust the process. There are thousands of resources at our hands, with the exact information we need. Go out there and search for them, use them, apply them or not. Making mistakes is part of the process to learn and grow. And the more faithful you are with doing the smaller things you do on your own. The more it becomes your strength.
Trust yourself, trust that you can do it and just do it. Let me put it this way, if you’re not making mistakes and getting some type of resistance then you are not doing anything. When these things are happening it means success is right around the corner. And when you start making progress you will start attracting people to you.
Building momentum is hard, and it’s so easy to lose. So keep pushing and don’t stop!
“If you do what’s easy your life will be hard. If you do what’s hard your life will be easy.”
“Other people’s actions do not determine my results.” -?
And remember, your life expands in proportion to your courage.