Note: So I am either going to write something positive and motivational, or I will challenge you to see both sides of things just to expand your mind. I want to expand your thinking.
No matter how you personally define success, any type of success. Whether it be to acquire material gains or in self-growth, you will almost always have to help somebody else get it first. But first, you must want success as bad as you want to take your next breath to live. It also doesn’t matter if you have good intentions or not.
It’s all in how you approach people. What you say. Are you listening to them? Are you building a bridge of rapport? Honesty, integrity and all that has no real say here. Look at it this way, a con-man doesn’t have the best of intentions and still manages to get honest, good people to agree with them and hand over their money.
Just being honest. Everything has two sides, both may lead you to what you want, but both have different results/consequences. So either way good or bad intentions, you will always have to put someone else first and help them get what they want before you get yours. Just remember! The difference between the two, is that ‘Success’ with bad intentions will not last, is limited, and you’ll have to work harder for.
My mentor always says, “Be a servant, help others first and they will end up helping you.”
I practice this daily in small and big ways. I always listen and look for a way to help someone. It’s not only good practice and habit, but also a nice way to feel better about yourself and what you’re doing. Some simple examples of what I do is:
- Who can I buy a cup of coffee or tea for?
- Who can I buy lunch or give a couple dollars to(for food)?
- Who can I let cut in front of me in line?
- Where can I find what they are looking for?
- How can I give their idea an extra touch?
- How can I help them gain a little bit of extra money?
I listen to people, I look for problems and ask myself, ‘What can I do to help them?’
I’ve also heard my mentor say something along the lines of.
“You won’t always reap where you sow, but you will reap what you sow.”
In this context, I take as. Always give without expecting and you will gain without expecting.
Remember! Negativity will always hinder you. Positivity will always Promote you.
So always put others first. Help them succeed or acquire something they want and you will most likely get yours.